Praise for the First Edition
"Conflict resolution book of the year . . . . Run, do not walk, to obtain a copy of this book."
Official newsletter of the ADR Section of the Association of American Law Schools
"Innovative, challenging, and ultimately transformative book . . . makes a unique contribution to the field of conflict resolution and will be a ready reference in the mediation library."Northern California Mediation Association Newsletter
Phyllis Beck Kritek conducts conflict resolution, leadership, and gender and communication workshops and training programs. She is the Florence Hair Distinguished Professor of Nursing at the University of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston School of Nursing.
Preface to the Second Edition.
PART ONE: CREATING THE CONTEXT FOR A DIALOGUE.
Initiating the Dialogue.
Approaching an Uneven Table.
The Roots of Our Distortions.
Recognizing an Uneven Table.
The Persistent Fixation on Dominance Power.
Illusions We Live By.
PART TWO: TRADITIONAL APPROACHES TO AN UNEVEN TABLE.
Manipulation as Tradition.
Masks of Manipulation.
Traditional Methods of Maneuvering.
Children at an Uneven Table.
Evolution at an Uneven Table.
Imagining New Approaches to an Uneven Table.
PART THREE: CONSTRUCTIVE WAYS OF BEING AT AN UNEVEN TABLE.
The Shift to New Ways of Being.
A Model of Paradigm Shift for the Millennium.
Way of Being Number One: Find and Inhabit the Deepest and Surest Human Space That Your Capabilities Permit.
Way of Being Number Two: Be a Truth Teller.
Way of Being Number Three: Honor Your Integrity, Even at Great Cost.
Way of Being Number Four: Find a Place for Compassion at the Table.
Way of Being Number Five: Draw a Line in the Sand Without Cruelty.
Way of Being Number Six: Expand and Explicate the Context.
Way of Being Number Seven: Innovate.
Way of Being Number Eight: Know What You Do and Do Not Know.
Way of Being Number Nine: Stay in the Dialogue.
Way of Being Number Ten: Know When and How to Leave the Table.
Some Antidotes and Precautions.
A Progress Report.
Imagining the Future: An Invitation to Continue the Dance.
Postscript: September 11, 2001.