Loving Someone Who Has Dementia is a much–needed guide that offers proven strategies for managing ongoing stress and grief. Dr. Pauline Boss outlines seven guidelines for staying resilient while caring for someone who has dementia and offers hope when experiencing "ambiguous loss" having a loved one both here and not here, physically present but psychologically absent. Loving Someone Who Has Dementia is written for anyone touched by the epidemic of dementia: caregivers, family members, friends, neighbors, as well as educators and professionals. Written in easy–to–understand conversational language, this vital resource is based on solid research and years of clinical practice. Dr. Boss gives you the tools you need to embrace rather than resist the ambiguity in your relationship with someone who has dementia.
Praise for Loving Someone Who Has Dementia
"Pauline Boss′s book is a revelation about how to live with a profoundly changed relationship that, despite dementia, remains a relationship. This groundbreaking therapist takes the struggling reader by the hand and offers new and very specific ways to find a path from helplessness and despair to peace and strength." Francine Russo, author, They′re Your Parents, Too! How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents′ Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy
"This book is a must for anyone suffering alongside a loved one with dementia. Dr. Boss writes with the wisdom of a scholar and the warmth of a family therapist." Vern L. Bengtson, PhD, former president, The Gerontological Society of America
"A gift to caregivers, in particular ′boomers′ who find themselves in a role for which they are unprepared ? Intelligent and sensitive ? a fine contribution." Gail Sheehy, best–selling author of Passages in Caregiving
By the author of Ambiguous Loss
Acknowledgments xiii
Introduction xv
1 The Ambiguous Loss of Dementia: How
Absence and Presence Coexist 1
2 The Complications of Both Loss
and Grief 21
3 Stress, Coping, and Resiliency 37
4 The Myth of Closure 55
5 The Psychological Family 71
6 Family Rituals, Celebrations, and
Gatherings 91
7 Seven Guidelines for the Journey 109
8 Delicious Ambiguity 137
9 The Good–Enough Relationship 155
Conclusion 167
A Note to Caregivers About Working
with Health Care Professionals 173
Resources 181
Notes 187
About the Author 215
Index 217
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