Advance praise for Challenging Casanova
"With remarkable precision, Andrew Smiler dismantles the theory that boys will be boys and replaces it with the reality that most adolescent males are complex, emotional, relational, and well on their way to becoming good men."
Christopher Kilmartin, PhD, University of Mary Washington; author, The Masculine Self
"We all ′know′ that males are biologically hardwired and propelled by evolution toward promiscuity. Except virtually all the evidence is inferential and teleological, reasoning backward into the deepest recesses of evolutionary time from observing a singles bar on a Friday night. And it′s actually true of get this! less than 5 percent of males. In this careful and empirically grounded book, Andrew Smiler methodically dismantles such facile explanations and teases out the Casanova Complex from the actual experiences of actual American men."
Michael Kimmel, PhD, distinguished professor of sociology, SUNY Stony Brook; author, The Gendered Society
"Challenging Casanova pulls back the sheets on young men′s sexuality to reveal a stunning truth: our societal expectations of boys actually encourage sexual behaviors in young men that we′d like to see curbed. Ultimately, this book challenges us as parents, teachers, and a society to rethink our beliefs about boys and to use the tools Dr. Smiler provides for positively influencing the sexual lives of young men."
Will Courtenay, PhD, LCSW, author, Dying to Be Men
"This book is for anyone who has wondered about the harm caused by male stereotypes, particularly in regard to young men and sexuality. Well researched, well constructed, and thoughtful, it is a surprising and fascinating look at what happens when society′s stereotypes about young Casanovas turn out to be wrong, and what we, together, can do about it."
Lisa Hickey, CEO, Good Men Media, Inc.; publisher, The Good Men Project
"Andrew Smiler helps us see the often unnoticed stereotypes that affect boys and men′s lives. Readers will learn about ways of being masculine that bring the most lasting satisfaction, for men and the women who love them."
Betsy Crane, PhD, professor, Center for Human Sexuality Studies, Widener University
Part I: Approaches to Boys Sexual Development 9
1. The Casanova Complex and Its Inaccuracies 11
2. Sexual Behavior During Adolescence 31
3. The Importance of Romantic Relationships 51
Part II: Why We Believe in Casanova 69
4. Evolution, Biology, and Casanova 71
5. Masculinity, Peers, and Identity 86
6. How the Media Promote Casanova 102
7. Appearance and the Casanova Complex 123
Part III: Challenging Casanova 137
8. Non–Casanova Approaches to Dating and Sexuality 139
9. Sexual Knowledge and Values 156
10. Intimacy 175
11. Challenging the Casanova Culture 191
About the Author 259
Andrew P. Smiler has been featured in the New York Times and USA Today for his groundbreaking research in teenage and adult sexual behavior and ideas about masculinity. Dr. Smiler was a front–line family therapist and counselor to young men, has been an assistant professor of psychology at SUNY Oswego, and is now a visiting professor at Wake Forest University. He has also published more than a dozen papers in the Journal of Adolescence, Journal of Sex Research , and elsewhere.