Do you lack confidence or self belief?
Join the club. Millions of otherwise smart people lack the confidence to achieve their full potential at work, in their careers and even in their personal pursuits. Yet confidence isn t something that can be conjured from motivational exercises or via quick–fix techniques.
Confidence is something you must build for yourself. It takes planning and action, deciding where you want to gain confidence and how it must be won. It will require courage, optimism and resilience.
In this follow–up to his international bestseller What s Stopping You? Robert Kelsey offers a deep understanding of confidence, suing extensive research analysis, as well his own experiences, to help you to:
- Identify the truth about confidence its root causes, as well as the damaging self beliefs that generate poor confidence
- Accept who you are, while planning your path towards confidence through achievement
- Understanding the myths around confidence, such as the need to be outgoing or to have talent
- Overcome the most common barrier to strong confidence: other people
- Deal with other barriers to confidence such as shyness, anxiety, stress, prefudice and even hubris
Part One Explaining Poor Confidence 7
1 Scripts 9
2 Mindset 22
3 Reactions 34
4 The Journey 45
Part Two The Alchemy of Confidence 57
5 Optimism and Resilience 59
6 Self–Efficacy and Talent 69
7 Courage and Extraversion 78
8 Trust and Judgement 87
Part Three Achievement 97
9 Identity 99
10 Goals 110
11 The Plan 120
Part Four Situations 133
12 Shyness 135
13 Developing Confidence at Work 147
14 Working with Others 157
15 Dating 170
Part Five Barriers 179
16 Prejudice 181
17 Procrastination 188
18 Depression 194
19 Stress and Anxiety 202
20 Hubris 210
The Route to Confidence in Seven Stages 221
What the Psychologists Say 224
About Robert Kelsey 237
Robert Kelsey is author of Capstone′s bestselling What′s Stopping You? exploring why smart people failed to reach their potential. He has gone on to sell over 64,000 copies across three What′s Stopping You? titles.
Robert Kelsey is CEO of Moorgate Communications, a financial PR agency, and was previously CEO of Metrocube, a start–up incubator located in London′s fashionable "City–fringes". He trained as a financial journalist before becoming an investment banker and a now an entrepreneur, running his successful PR agency.
Yet Kelsey remains and perennial outsider. From a rebellious childhood to an adulthood of pursuing a series of unsuitable careers, he has had a lifetime of failing to settle into any group activities, yet lacking the confidence, guile or know–how to profitably "rebel". Kelsey has developed an enormous insight into both the root causes of alienation and the all–encompassing negative consequences.